Don't Be That Person · Wedding · Wedding Planning

Don’t Be That Person: At a Wedding

So.. if you’ve been reading my blog, you know that I’ve been planning my wedding (24 days! Yay!!). I’ve slowly, but surely, been encountering a few things (people) that have been extremely frustrating for me and everyone else involved in the planning process, so I thought that maybe I’d blow off a little steam with a list post called “Don’t Be That Person.” It may turn into a series ranging over a wider variety of topics eventually… I’m not sure yet. I don’t know if I can even come up with that many types of people who frustrate me as I’m normally a pretty easy-going individual.

Anyway. I’ve only got four as of yet, but I’m sure that I’ll end up thinking of more as the big day approaches and then passes. Maybe I’ll do a part two at some point? Who knows.


  1. The “at MY wedding…” person. While I’m sure your wedding was or will be fabulous, you’re not currently at your wedding. This isn’t your special day. Don’t ruin or try to take away from someone else’s special day by letting everyone at it know how much better you think that yours was or will be in comparison to it. It only serves to make you look like a huge jerk. So please, just for one day – refrain from it. Let the bride and groom have their special day. Talk about yours later.
  2. The person who disagrees with ALL the things. This kind of goes along with #1, but there is always that one person at every wedding I’ve been to who has to make a smart comment about or disagree with everything. Whether it be the flavor or the cake or the wedding venue or the fact that they felt like they had to travel too far to get to the reception. Or that the flowers have a different odor than what they would have liked. Or that the wedding was too traditional or not traditional enough for their taste. Again – this is not your day. You can make all of the decisions that you want to at your wedding, but this isn’t your wedding. Don’t try to take away from another person’s special day by sharing your oh-so-many opinions with everything within an earshot of you. Haven’t you ever heard the “if you can’t say something nice, say nothing at all” rule? No? Well, now you have. Follow it.
  3. The person with the R.S.V.P. issues. When it comes to weddings, invitations are a big deal. to a wedding invitation is also a big deal. Every. single. one. counts. The headcount is a HUGE deal when it comes to the reception because EVERY head costs money, and that junk adds up. Believe me. Don’t be the person who either sends an R.S.V.P. and doesn’t show up or doesn’t send one but shows up anyway. There are people who really don’t have the time to be worrying about what you’re going to eat or where you’re going to sit at the last possible second… but they’ll have to find the time anyway because you simply decided not to drop a tiny little card in the mail. Don’t do that to them.
  4. The “are you sure that this is what you want” person. If they weren’t sure, they wouldn’t be standing at the altar together, is how you need to look at it. It’s not your place to be asking questions like that. You were invited to be part of their big day. Why would you try to make them second guess it?

Can you think of more that belong on this list? I’m sure that you can.. and I’ll likely be able to think of nine more as soon as I publish this post. Can you think of another topic altogether that should be touched upon in a “Don’t Be That Person” post? Leave ’em in the comments! Feedback is always appreciated!


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